Because life is not perfect we will feel bitterness and heartache. We will be lied to and lied about. We will be gossiped to and gossiped about. Sometimes we will be the ones to start the gossiping and lying. Either way today we are going to talk about some of the harder subjects today. We are talking about gossip, bitterness, and heartache. But our main goal this week is confidence and growing in Christ.
When did all this hurt begin and how? our heartache, bitterness, and what ever other bad things began with Adam and Eve when they ate the fruit they were not supposed to.
“Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.” Ephesians 4:29 (NLT)
Do not say wrong things about others instead build them up. Bringing others down does not bring you any higher. Nor does it bring them any lower.
As Christians we are supposed to show His light we are supposed to be in His image, meaning we are to act as Christ.
James 3:5 (NKJV) “Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things. See how great a forest a little fire kindles!.”
For being something so little your tongue sure can be hurtful and cause great damage. Always be careful what you say. Words can be damaging very easily.
Have you ever seen the illustration where you put a bunch of matches on a box and light one match? Do you remember how fast the fire spread? That is how quick your words can hurt others, That is how quick a rumor can spread.
When we feel the need to talk badly about others instead we should pray for who ever that person could be. We should pray that they will come to know God. We should never wish wrong against others. Instead hope for the better of their life. We should want to think and say things that honor God. Gossiping is definitely not honoring God.
The Lord wants us to come to Him with our problems. He wants us to seek His help, honestly we all need His help. So pray to the Lord for Guidance to lead you from talking bad of others.
Genesis 1:26 (KJV) “God said, : Let us make man in our image, after our likeness…”
God created us to be like Him, not by looks. Instead by actions. God is loving, forgiving, caring, kind, and much more. If we are created to be like Christ then That means we should not gossip.
One reason we gossip so much is because of looking for the bad in people. We look to find all their flaws. If we instead look for the good they have done then we will not have a reason to gossip about them. Anybody can find the bad in someone. We should be the ones to find the good.
So the truth behind gossiping is it ruins your character and ruins friendships. Gossiping can be hurtful. It is a sickening thing to do. Gossip does not make you any better, it actually only makes you a worse person in my opinion. Gossiping DOES NOT come from God. We gossip because we look for the bad instead of the good. Gossiping is hard to over come, it is a battle that will take a lot of struggle to get through. Even with all the struggles of over coming gossip it is not worth it.
Now onto Bitterness
Bitterness takes you from the one you really need. Bitterness captures your heart filling it with poison and lies. It leads you to evilness not towards God. When someone says or does something that makes me angry I become bitter. I do not want to forgive them even if they did not mean to do it. Bitterness removes any joy you feel in your heart. Bitterness is overwhelming. Nothing good comes from a bitter heart. There are different sizes of bitterness but, no matter the size bitterness is never right.
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” – Ephesians 4:31-32 (NLT)
To get rid of bitterness you need to change your way of thinking, be forgiving no matter how hard it may be. Pray to God so He can guide you. Instead of being bitter be kind and instead of wrath choose joy.
I would suggest finding a key verse or your life verse when ever you are filled with bitterness. Use it to review. retrain your mind from your past hurts. Also pray. Pray for guidance, pray for peace, or for strength.
Does anybody have any stories they would like to share on gossip, hurt, or bitterness?
Prayer: Dear Lord, Give us the strength to over come our hurt. Have us to honor you with our words and actions. Guard our hearts from bitterness. Have us to seek you in the hard times. Thank you. I love you. AMEN
Activity: Create an Open When: You Need Confidence Envelope.
Split the girls into friend groups. each member of each group writes each other a note of encouragement. You cannot read your note of encouragement till you need it. So it is a complete surprise.
I just wanted to let you know. The reason this blog post has activities is because I am working on a project and I am using this for it. That will also explain the questions and answers! I chose to leave it up if you wanted to use this idea too! I also wanted to say sorry. I am super sorry I have not been posting often or in a schedule I am hoping to get back into one soon!