Truths Behind Gossiping


“When we feel the need to talk badly about others instead we should pray for who ever that person may be.” 

Gossiping is something that I struggle with big time. But truthfully I really hate gossiping it makes me feel sick and gross. It did not start bothering me until last February. I was eating pizza (One of the best foods ever!) with my family after church and the building was crowded. A few tables from us were three teens. The whole time they ate they were gossiping about someone. The words they used were nasty. I could not stand it. Ever since then when I gossip about someone I almost always remember that day and it bothers me.

I believe it is a good thing it bothers me and that I remember that story. I believe God is just reminding me it is not right what I am doing. Gossiping is hurtful and it does not make you better than who ever you are talking about.

The bible says “Gossip is spread by wicked people; they stir up trouble and break up friendships.” -Proverbs 16:28

Proverbs 16:28 is telling us gossiping is of the wicked children of God should not be doing such evil. Instead, we should be shining Gods light, showing the wicked to God so they can leave the life of the wicked. Gossiping can harm more than just someones feelings it can ruin friendships, even your own.

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” 
Ephesians 4:29

Do not say wrong things about others instead build them up. Bringing others down does not bring you any higher.

James 3:5 “The tongue is a little member, and boast great things. how great a matter a little fire kindleth.”

For being something so little your tongue sure can be hurtful and cause great damage. Always be careful what you say. Words can be damaging very easily.

When we feel the need to talk badly about others instead we should pray for who ever that person may be. We should pray that they will come to know God. We should never wish wrong against others. Instead hope for the better of their life. We should want to think and say things that honour God. Gossiping is definitely not honoring God.

The Lord wants us to come to Him with our problems. He wants us to seek His help, honestly we all need His help. So pray to the Lord for Guidence to lead you from talking bad of others.

1 Corinthians 15:33 “Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character.”

That verse is telling you do not hang around bad company. So, if you know someone who is doing wrong run from them. Do not hang around them. Bad company ruins your character. Even if you are not doing the wrong that person is doing others see it as if you are, because why would good hang around the bad?

Mark 12:31 says “Love your neighbor as you love yourself…”

We are to love others as we love ourselves. If you loved yourself I am sure you would not want to talk bad about yourself to others.

Genesis 1:26 “God said, : Let us make man in our image, after our likeness…”

God created us to be like Him, not by looks. Instead by actions. God is loving, forgiving, caring, kind, and much more. If we are created to be like Christ then That means we should not gossip.

Proverbs 11:27 “Whoever seeks good finds favor, but evil comes to one who searches for it.”

One reason we gossip so much is because of looking for the bad in people. We look to find all their flaws. If we instead look for the good they have done then we will not have a reason to gossip about them. Anybody can find the bad in someone. We should be the ones to find the good.

So the truth behind gossiping is it ruins your character and ruins frienships. Gossiping can be hurtful. It is a sickning thing to do. Gossip does not make you any better, it actrually only makes you a worse person in my opinion. Gossiping DOES NOT come from God. We gossip because we look for the bad instead of the good. Gossiping is hard to over come, it is a battle that will take a lot of struggle to get through. Even with all the struggles of over coming gossip it is deffiently worth it.

Dear Lord,

Deliver us from our wickedness. Have us to do the right thing, bring us away from our nasty sins. Teach us if we have nothing nice to say about someone DO NOT say it at all. Lord have us to not ruin our character. Have us to be more like you Lord, We cannot over come this with out you Lord so, lead us in the right direction. Have us to see the good in others, not seek the bad. Set a Guard over our mouths, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips. (Psalms 141:3)





  1. I hear you Kalinann! It’s like we can ask ourselves this question, ‘when I gossip, does it make me feel ‘bigger’ to put someone else ‘down’ ?” Ugh…Lord help us put a reign on our tongue and speak things that edify 🙂

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  2. This is a great reminder! It’s so easy for the lines between genuine conversation and gossiping to get blurred. I’ve seen it happen and I guess my golden rule is “speak fairly for the person who isn’t present.” I agree with you, it is totally a matter of integrity God challenges us to maintain. Thanks you for taking the time to share this!

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