Using the Bible to Deal with: Gossip, Bitterness, and Heartache

Because life is not perfect we will feel bitterness and heartache. We will be lied to and lied about. We will be gossiped to and gossiped about. Sometimes we will be the ones to start the gossiping and lying. Either way today we are going to talk about some of the harder subjects today. We are talking about gossip, bitterness, and heartache. But our main goal this week is confidence and growing in Christ.

 
When did all this hurt begin and how? our heartache, bitterness, and what ever other bad things began with Adam and Eve when they ate the fruit they were not supposed to.
 
“Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.”  Ephesians 4:29 (NLT)
 
Do not say wrong things about others instead build them up. Bringing others down does not bring you any higher. Nor does it bring them any lower.
 
As Christians we are supposed to show His light we are supposed to be in His image, meaning we are to act as Christ.
 
James 3:5 (NKJV) “Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things. See how great a forest a little fire kindles!.”
 
For being something so little your tongue sure can be hurtful and cause great damage. Always be careful what you say. Words can be damaging very easily.
 
Have you ever seen the illustration where you put a bunch of matches on a box and light one match? Do you remember how fast the fire spread? That is how quick your words can hurt others, That is how quick a rumor can spread.
 
When we feel the need to talk badly about others instead we should pray for who ever that person could be. We should pray that they will come to know God. We should never wish wrong against others. Instead hope for the better of their life. We should want to think and say things that honor God. Gossiping is definitely not honoring God.
 
The Lord wants us to come to Him with our problems. He wants us to seek His help, honestly we all need His help. So pray to the Lord for Guidance to lead you from talking bad of others.
 
Genesis 1:26 (KJV) “God said, : Let us make man in our image, after our likeness…”
 
God created us to be like Him, not by looks. Instead by actions. God is loving, forgiving, caring, kind, and much more. If we are created to be like Christ then That means we should not gossip.
 
One reason we gossip so much is because of looking for the bad in people. We look to find all their flaws. If we instead look for the good they have done then we will not have a reason to gossip about them. Anybody can find the bad in someone. We should be the ones to find the good.
 
So the truth behind gossiping is it ruins your character and ruins friendships. Gossiping can be hurtful. It is a sickening thing to do. Gossip does not make you any better, it actually only makes you a worse person in my opinion. Gossiping DOES NOT come from God. We gossip because we look for the bad instead of the good. Gossiping is hard to over come, it is a battle that will take a lot of struggle to get through. Even with all the struggles of over coming gossip it is not worth it.
 
Now onto Bitterness
 
Bitterness takes you from the one you really need. Bitterness captures your heart filling it with poison and lies. It leads you to evilness not towards God. When someone says or does something that makes me angry I become bitter. I do not want to forgive them even if they did not mean to do it. Bitterness removes any joy you feel in your heart. Bitterness is overwhelming. Nothing good comes from a bitter heart. There are different sizes of bitterness but, no matter the size bitterness is never right.
 
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” – Ephesians 4:31-32 (NLT)
 
To get rid of bitterness you need to change your way of thinking, be forgiving no matter how hard it may be. Pray to God so He can guide you. Instead of being bitter be kind and instead of wrath choose joy.
 
I would suggest finding a key verse or your life verse when ever you are filled with bitterness. Use it to review. retrain your  mind from your past hurts. Also pray. Pray for guidance, pray for peace, or for strength.
 
Does anybody have any stories they would like to share on gossip, hurt, or bitterness?
 
Prayer: Dear Lord, Give us the strength to over come our hurt. Have us to honor you with our words and actions. Guard our hearts from bitterness. Have us to seek you in the hard times. Thank you. I love you. AMEN
 
Activity: Create an Open When: You Need Confidence Envelope.
 
Split the girls into friend groups. each member of each group writes each other a note of encouragement. You cannot read your note of encouragement till you need it. So it is a complete surprise.
 
I just wanted to let you know. The reason this blog post has activities is because I am working on a project and I am using this for it. That will also explain the questions and answers! I chose to leave it up if you wanted to use this idea too! I also wanted to say sorry. I am super sorry I have not been posting often or in a schedule I am hoping to get back into one soon!  bloggbh

Service of Worship

Romans 12:1-8
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.For as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same office: So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another. Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, whether prophecy, let us prophesy according to the proportion of faith; Or ministry, let us wait on our ministering: or he that teacheth, on teaching;Or he that exhorteth, on exhortation: he that giveth, let him do it with simplicity; he that ruleth, with diligence; he that sheweth mercy, with cheerfulness.”

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5 Week Bible Journal Challenge

This is a five week bible journal challenge. But you can do this as a 5 day challenge if you would like. Each passage/verse will have to do with hope. 
I would love for you to share a picture of your journal on Instagram. You can tag me so I can see it  @wheremyheartgoesblog. You can also share it on Facebook.

Week 1: Jeremiah 29:10-14

 

Week 2: Romans 15:7-13

Week 3: Psalms 39:1-13


Week 4: Revelations 21:1-8

Week 5: Psalm 23:1-6

 

Living Your Purpose

Today we are going to be talking about purpose. God has led me to talk about this for awhile. The excuses we use that keep us from our purpose bother me. Why should we make excuses? Must of us have heard that “God is for us, who can be against us?”- Romans 8:31 We even state that verse, but do we really believe it? If we are being honest I do not think we do, because if we truly did believe that, than we would not have any excuses. 

Jeremiah 1:4-10 (NIV) (if you do not like this version feel free to use your preferred version!)

“4 The word of the LORD came to me, saying, 5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” 6 “Alas, Sovereign LORD,” I said, “I do not know how to speak; I am too young.” 7 But the LORD said to me, “Do not say, ‘I am too young.’ You must go to everyone I send you to and say whatever I command you. 8 Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you and will rescue you,” declares the LORD. 9 Then the LORD reached out his hand and touched my mouth and said to me, “I have put my words in your mouth. 10 See, today I appoint you over nations and kingdoms to uproot and tear down, to destroy and overthrow, to build and to plant.”

We make excuses for why we just cannot do it. But if God called you to do it I am one-hundred percent sure you can “Just Do It” I will go ahead and list excuses we use that prevent us from doing His will for our lives. WE use the excuse of Failures, rejection/hate, selfishness, we want control, too young/old, too ordinary/good/not good enough, it can wait, and I am too busy. There are so many more we use.I am going to share my excuses. 1. Failure I am afraid I will not do it right. 2. Rejection I am afraid I will mess up than everyone will remember that one mistake and will not like me. Sometimes I have great blog post ideas, but I keep them to myself because I fear rejection. 3. Not Good Enough This one is more of a minor side effect of #2. And I am slowly getting rid of #2. 🙂 4. Selfishness I am full of pride. I want to be seen as who I imagine myself to be (well who I want myself to be anyways). In all honesty we all have that “dark side” we do not want others to know about. But maybe God wants you to tell others so, they can see they are not alone in this battle. Others need the light and to feel worthy. We can reflect His light. 
Whatever your excuse is “Let It Go”. God is with you. He did not call you to do something just to watch you fail. He called you to stand tall and strong in your faith.

We also need to remember these wise words by William J. Toms “Be careful how you live. You may be the only Bible some person reads.” I have that quote memorized. Partially because 1. I love quotes so much and that was a powerful one. 2. I have heard it multiple times by my old youth leader. He quoted it many times at church reminding us of it. I took those words to heart. He also said never ignore that feeling you get when you feel like God is calling you to talk to someone about Christ; they may need it! 

Letter to My Seventeen Year Old Self

Hey guys, I have a guest post today. The post is created by Amber Taube. Amber has a blog of her own; you can check it out here. Anyways I hope you enjoy this post!

 

 

I love this blog, and I love this writer because she is 17, y’all. And she has decided, at this time in her life when everyone is telling her she can have and be anything she wants, to live for God. I can’t help but pray that she will keep penning these words for His glory, and that I will continue to get this little glimpse into her life as His plans unfold before her.

 

As I approach my 27th birthday, I look back on the last ten years and marvel over all I have learned and how I have grown. My 27 year-old-self looks just about nothing like the youth of years past, and not just because I have 3 babies under my belt and the stretch marks that come with them. I have changed because God has been gracious to work His way in my life beyond any dream I had ever conjured in the days I scribbled names in notebooks and browsed the internet for potential careers.

 

I’ve matured, married, and become a mom and missionary. But mostly, I’ve been molded by the hands that created me which so graciously continue their work on me. In the bending, in the being re-made again and again, I’ve learned a few things. If I could go back and give my teeny bopper self (you can say things like that when you’re my age, y’know) some words of wisdom, I have a few things I would say. I hope you’ll be touched and challenged by this “Letter to My-17-Year-Old-Self.”

 

Dear Young Me,

 

I’m writing you from ten years down the road you’re walking now. Life hasn’t been easy but it has been blessed. I write you this to encourage you to keep the faith and following God. I have some things I want to share with you. I know I can’t change anything but maybe some looker on will see some wisdom in these simple lessons.

 

Make plans, but only tentatively, knowing the Lord will likely change them. I promise, you’ll be glad He did. Make progress and strive for change, but allow God to do the heavy lifting. You have big dreams in your heart, but they’re too big for you. Even when the dreams are good and the work is fulfilling, they’re heavy and can be a burden. You need Jesus. As much as you want to, you can’t do everything and you sure can’t save the world. Thankfully, He’s already done that job.

 

Devote yourself, first, to God before any other relationships or commitments. Trust God to build your tribe, adding and taking as He sees fit for your personal growth and peripheral influence. Know that devotion to Christ, though admirable, is not always inclusive and inviting to those that prefer to remain on the fringes. It’s OK to be weird or a little radical in your pursuit of God, though you may lose some friends along the way. God will bring the people into your life that will encourage and build you up as you seek to please Him. And the seasons in between, you will learn of the sweetness and love of Christ in a way you would never have otherwise. And you’ll be thankful for these times that left you vulnerable and aching for the Vine.

 

Make room in your heart and life for a man of God that will lead you, and then let Him. While the world screams that you don’t need a man, and you can do everything he can do but better, trust me when I say you’ll be happy to buck that social norm when God gives you that person. Don’t look for Mr. Right or some materialized checklist, but instead open your heart and mind to a man striving for God who has given his heart fully over to Him. It might scare you to set your life up with a sold out servant blazing forward for God, but the ride will be unlike anything you’ve ever imagined. You will look back in awe of all the great things the Lord has allowed you to see. That being said, don’t build your life on or around a man but on the God loved you before you were born and has pursued your heart every day since. Don’t find your identity in your relationship status but in daily communion with your Heavenly father. A husband is not promised, but God’s presence is.

 

Seek God first, desiring fruit for Him and work for His kingdom, and He will fulfill your heart’s desires. The good gifts He gives may look nothing like what you even thought you wanted. As you grow closer to the Lord, and your desires start to look more like His, you’ll see that He is providing and thrilling your soul with the wonderful gifts only He could know you need.

 

Labor to bear fruit for God, but realize that your worth lies not in your work but in your position as a child of God. You are saved by His grace. Nothing you can do can make Him love you more or less. You will learn, with time, just how empowering this truth is. I only wish it wouldn’t take you so long.

 

With all that and so much more, enjoy this blessed life God has given you. In the good times and bad, the Lord is good and ever near. Thrive in that truth and see great things happen. God loves you more than you can understand right now, but you’ll get glimpses as you go.

 

Love,
Old(er) Me

My 5 Favorite Verses on Joy

The verses in this weeks post help me when I am feeling down. These verses are few of the many that bring me joy. There are so many different things that try to steal our joy daily. Like those goals you set at the beginning of the year and the month is not even over yet, but you already gave up. Maybe you are just stressed and life is hard at the moment. Whatever it is these are the top 5 verses that help me when I am not filled with joy.

1. Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame.”Psalm 34:5

Basically that verse says those who believe in God will be filled with joy. The believers are filled with joy even though life is not perfect they know they have eternal life with God.

2. “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds,  because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.” – James 1:2-3

We tend to get angry when we go through trials. But those trials are making us who God wants us to be. So we should not get so angry. Even though it is very frustrating!

3. “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” – Psalm 118:24
Each day God allows amazing things to happen. We should look on the bright side instead of letting that one little thing get in the way!

4. “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” – Proverbs 17:22 
It does not benefit us when we are upset, but it does benefit us to be filled with joy. 

5. “So also you have sorrow now, but I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you.”  – John 16:22
Here on earth we may not always have the best days, but when we meet God we will no longer be filled with sorrow.

Also if you would like to read more about my thoughts on joy you can read it here or here.

 

My Top 5 Post of 2016

Happy New Year! Today I wanted to share my top 5 blog post with a short summary.

  1. From Darkness Into Light
    This post is probably my favorite. Being a light in this world was on my heart a lot last year and still is. So, if light is your word of the year check it out!
  2. Finding Purpose
    Many people believe they do not have a purpose in this life. They feel God cannot use them because they are to broken, ordinary, or young. Well what ever your reason is. God has a purpose for you. You will find it in His perfect timing!
  3. Summer Playlist
    If you are wishing it was summer again (Same!) then here is last years summer playlist.
  4. Truths Behind Gossiping
    Gossiping has been a major struggle. It really bothered me a lot last year. This is a reminder of why gossiping is not so good.
  5. 5 of My Favorite Verses
    This post just shows my top 5 verses and what they mean to me.

Winter Playlist

Hey, with all the holiday events I decided I am going to post a simply post this week. Today I am sharing my Winter Playlist. It is full of my favorite Christian songs at the moment. The playlist will be updated throughout winter. I truly hope you enjoy this playlist.

If you have any songs you think should be added to the playlist or just songs you think I may like please comment below!

Happy New Year everyone.

5 of My Favorite Verses

Today I am going to list 5 of my favorite verses and explain why they had an impact on my life. These verses I am about to share have made me into who I am today. They have led me on the right path when I felt lost. So, lets begin.

1. Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceitful, and Beauty is vain: but a woman who fears the Lord, she will be praised.”
Proverbs 31:30 is one of my favorites because like many others I have been very insecure. This verse is a reminder we do not have to be perfect and look perfect. We were not called to be flawless or what society calls beautiful. We are called to believe in God and do His will for our lives. Another thing I just realized is. If we are so, busy worrying about our flaws or if others will like us. We are putting that thought over God and making it a god.

2. Jeremiah 1:6-9 “Alas, Sovereign Lord, I said, I do not know how to speak; I am too young.  But the Lord said to me, Do not say, ‘I am to young.’ You must go to everyone I send you to and say whatever I command you. Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you and will rescue you, declared the Lord. Then the Lord reached out His hand and touched my mouth and said to me, I have put my words in your mouth.” We are constantly given the idea that we are too young and we can wait till we are older to fulfill Gods purpose in our lives. If God called you to do something do not fear. If God called you to do something He will be there to protect you and guide you along the way. I do have my doubts sometimes, but we always need to remember God is with us.

3. Psalms 143:10 “Teach me to do thy will; for thou art my God: thy spirit is good; lead me into the land of uprightness.” So, I’ve mentioned this verse about a million times, but like I have said about it in other post. I love this verse because it reminds me to do what the Lord wants me to do. I found this verse when I was really bitter with someone. The verse reminds me to not worry about others and what they have done to hurt me. If I worry to much about what they did to harm me it could lead me in the wrong path.

4. John 13:7 “Jesus replied, You do not realize now what I am doing, but later you will understand.” We often get angry with God because we have no clue what He is doing and we think He is doing wrong towards us. when really He is giving us a chance to grow. What we truly need to remember is God is in control. Whatever He is doing it is for the good.

5.  Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” This one is pretty similar to Psalms 143:1o. I like these verses because they remind me not to stray away. They comfort me I do not know how to explain the comfort.

Those were the five verses and reasons. I would like to know what some of your favorite verses are! If you would like to share your favorite verses you can tell me through Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or in the comments!